When Injury Is a Blessing

Our son Dan broke his arm biking last Saturday on a rare 60 degree February day in Minnesota.  Over the past week, we have spent a lot of time in Urgent Care, in an appointment with a surgeon, figuring out how to wear a long sleeve dress shirt and suit over a sling so he could attend a job fair, and yesterday in surgery to repair the arm.

Over the past four years, it seems like I have been more often on the receiving end of care and even though I would not wish a broken arm on anyone, especially one of our kids, it has been rewarding and bonding to be able to be one of the caregivers.  I am sure Tammie feels the same way, having Dan stay at our house the past couple of days so we can help him pre and post surgery.  He is usually very self-sufficient and likes to figure things out on his own, so having him “let” us help him has been a blessing for both of us.  One of the things I have personally learned about illness or injury is that it tends to knock the self-sufficiency gene down a peg or two, giving others the opportunity to help.

BTW, if you need help at 4 am, I am your guy.  Early mornings are my best time and it goes downhill from there.  So, being at the surgery center at 4:36 am, before the medical staff arrived, was my idea of a good start to the day.

In retirement, the schedule (such as it is), can be quickly trashed and it can be all-hands on deck to help out in these kinds of situations.  Yet another positive of being …

A Boomer In Transition (Dean)



What do you call vacation when retired?

So, a week ago, we spent some time in the Florida Keys.  We told everyone it is vacation, but I felt weird about saying that word. Do you use that word if you are retired? I asked several retirees if they used the word vacation and it seems to be the consensus, so I just need to get over it.  Plus, my wife is not retired, so it really was a vacation for her.

BTW, we had a great time and enjoyed the very chill pace of the Keys.  It was not hard to take upper 70’s weather either.  We did get a late start on our vacation since we got caught in another Delta computer outage and after several hours of making new friends at the airport we found out that our flight was actually cancelled.  We stood in a line for a couple more hours with our newfound friends and rebooked for the next day.  Since I have free time on my hands, I was able to convince Delta to give us a lot of miles and other freebies so essentially our flights were free.  On the way back, we had another delay as they could not find our plane at the airport.  They knew it was at the airport, and after switching our gate 3 times in about 15 minutes, they eventually found it.  Since this was vacation, and I no longer spend much time at the airport, I found it to be more amusing than frustrating.

Good article in the WSJ a few days ago about retirement.  I found it to be on point.  For example, they asked several retirees if they spend 80% of their pre-retirement annual spending now that they are in retirement.  The answer was a resounding “No.”  They spend the same, just on different things.  I believe this is true and that planners should use 100% when they do retirement planning, if not 105%.  Maybe that rule of thumb was ok when people retired at 65, sat in a recliner for 3 years and then died at 68, but it is clear that retirees now generally lead a much more active retirement and that includes actively spending money.

Time to walk to dog.


A Boomer In Transition